‘Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself’
A flourishing professional life is not about knowing yourself, professionally speaking, at the end of your studies, but about constant progress and in building something over time. The obstacles that you meet will be your future strong points. Don’t try to rewrite history, but rather find a guiding principle for your actions. Understanding, with hindsight, what motivated your choices will pay better dividends than cursing the whole world because one of your projects didn’t come off. Trust yourself and learn to know yourself!
Maybe you’ll say to me ‘knowing myself doesn’t mean I’ll change’. Wrong! In taking a deep, honest and constructive look at yourself, you will change your perception of yourself and your experiences, whether happy or otherwise. CEO or employee, young graduate or old hand – self reflection is good for everyone. Let’s take an example I know something about, that of a recruiter.
A recruiter in a search and selection is at the intersection of a company’s needs and a candidate’s aspirations. Now, the ideal profile doesn’t always exist, and when it does, it can often be the case that the person is not available. In a perfect world, the best candidates would all come and work for the company we are recruiting for. But in the real world, you have to fight to recruit the person who will be a game-changer.
So, all the skill of a recruiter lies in his or her approach to candidates, in forging trusting relationships, in being genuine and in understanding their hesitations. Emotional intelligence is the most important aspect in activities which involve human contact. In order to respond to other people’s doubts, it is indispensable to have faced your own and overcome them. A recruiter who is full of himself and doesn’t listen will never succeed in filling even a simple vacancy. A recruiter who has known failure and learnt from it, will be able to succeed in time. Sour grapes and thinking about what could have happened if things had been different is a waste of time. Understanding why you failed and how you are going to succeed next time, this is how you change!
Charles-Henri Dumon, CEO & Founder of Morgan Philips Group